2021.10.16 22:10 niva_sun Just venting about homophobia and how coming is a traumatic experience :)
It's almost 2 years since I (?20) came out as sapphic, and my dad did not handle it well. I told him because I respected him as a person, and didn't want him to hear it through somebody else (as I was dating publicly). He said a lot of hurtful stuff, and because I didn't learn to set boundaries until several months later, I let him. I fully believed we could work our way through it if I talked calmly and tried to hear him out.
When I finally put my foot down, he listened, but the damage was already done. Our relationship will never be the same, which hurts because of how close we were when I was a kid.
My sister (f16) recently started dating a girl. She told me a while ago she didn't want to label it, and definitely wasn't going to tell dad, which was a relief. I didn't want her to go through what I went through, even though it went kind of "well" for me. About month ago she "came out" to mom, and I happened to be there to witness it. It wasn't a big deal, just "btw, it's a She" and "Oh, ok", but I felt extremely anxious and cried for hours that night. That was when I realised I was actually traumatised from my own coming out.
Today me and my sister hung out, and she mentioned how dad almost found out once. Mom had told him she was meeting a friend she had met at pride (trying really hard not to out her), and he flipped out. Called my sister (because he was out of town) and begged her not to do "this", told her she was hurting his soul, ect. She asked him what "this" was supposed to mean, straight up pretended not to understand because she didn't want to deal with his homophobic ass.
She seems to be doing ok, and I'm proud of her for handling it so well, but I'm also pissed. Pissed at my dad for doing this to her, when he knows how much it hurt me and our relationship 2 years ago. Pissed at my mom for putting the responsibility of boundaries on us, and not on him. Pissed at myself for not teaching my parents better and saving my sister from being hurt, and at my sisters for being queer and making me re-live my own coming out experience.
I used to think I had a nice coming out experience, because I wasn't rejected by anyone I loved, and my dad eventually stopped saying homophobic stuff to me. Because I was patient. But I was a kid. I shouldn't have been expected to be patient and understanding, whilst my grown dad stepped all over my feelings and my identity. Fuck. I wish I didn't still love him.
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Hey guys. Posted about a week ago about my CT withdrawal from phenibut (I only took 10g over a period of less than two weeks.
Good news is most of my symptoms have gone. The worst was the insomnia, but I’ve had 3 straight nights of sleep now. My remaining symptoms are:
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